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Friends, I want to talk about how many times I've been told that abuse victims like myself are out to "destroy the church" and have been called a laundry list of things, ranging from "adversaries" to "enemies of the gospel"
They had been so proud of my dedication and work. They used me as an example of what a truly faithful person acted like. And when I said "I was abused, please help me"? All of that love was replaced with suspicion.
And then, a pastor in my town wrote all about how the #ChurchToo movement was an attack from Satan, and I wrote him back.
And as soon as I started talking openly about the abuse I had endured, and the ways that the church had enabled that abuse, I was met with dismissal, disbelief, and hostility. By the same people who I thought loved me.
I'm not a believer. But I was. Born and raised, with the inscribed Bible and baptism certificate to prove it. And I was really dedicated. I lead youth programs, I sang, I cleaned...I was one of those people who is the backbone of a church.
I told him my story, with my real name. I told him that I had come forward, been dismissed, & warned to keep quiet. I told him that seeing #ChurchToo was healing, because it made me feel less alone. It gave me hope that our collective voices could not be ignored the way mine was.
I told him that it was hurtful and damaging when he called stories like mine are slanderous. He told me that that was "utter nonsense"
And he was hoping to "..warn believers from giving the enemy another arrow in his quiver."
Because people like me coming forward was the same as arming Satan.
He told me that I was wrong. That this was not a matter that should be discussed publicly. He wrote: "...enemies of the Gospel seize on any and every opportunity to paint the church in a negative light and many have hijacked this #ChurchToo movement to do just that"
He also said it would be well within his rights to publish what I had written him, even though I had told him I was writing at great risk to myself. So I didn't respond further. I was afraid.
He said "your good intentions in outing and shaming the abuse taking place in the various churches do not erase the bad outcomes of discouraging people from attending church." My story mattered less to him than getting people in the pews.
It was incredibly painful. I loved the church, and was told that I was a liability. I tried to warn them about my abuser, and was told that I was going to send people to hell if I didn't stay quiet.
He said: “If a single lost soul decides against walking through the church doors this week where they would have heard the soul-saving gospel of Jesus, that will have been one person too many.” So if I was open with my story, I was effectively damning people to hell.
I couldn't stay in church. I had to walk away, for my own safety and sanity. But if you do remain, I hope you find somewhere safe. I hope you find people who will believe you, and defend you. You deserve that.
SO many of us try to do it "the right way". We try keeping things private. We try to tell leadership so they can do the right thing. And then we are sent away, no justice, no peace.
Then when all else fails, and some of us take the very last resort and go public? Because we care too much to put more people at risk? We are told that we are the enemy of God and the church. It is monstrous.
In case you are like me and you need to hear this: You did not hurt the church. The predators in the church did that. You did not "destroy" the reputation or career of your abuser. Their own actions did that.
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